Coaching and beliefs - What is behind our daily actions?

Beliefs Coaching - a very versatile topic. It is used in every part of our lives. This also makes it one of the biggest levers that coaching can apply to our lives. In coaching, we find out what we cannot recognize on our own. Beliefs are a major part of this. So there is only one question for us: What do we think about ourselves and our lives? What narrative do we follow in our heads? This is the essence of beliefs. The word personality is derived from the Greek „persona“, which can also be translated as „mask“. So what mask do you wear from day to day?

A small difference with a big impact

Beliefs are often seen as positive or negative. But you should be careful here. You can quickly fall into a emotional Allow dependency to take hold. If you then try to change a „negative“ belief, it can be very frustrating.

In general, the following applies: Beliefs are either useful or not. They either fit in with our goals or they don't. We naturally want to choose the ones that help us get ahead in life. Put yourself in the shoes of an athlete. He wants to increase his successes and at the same time make time for himself and his family. Here are a few beliefs he might have:

„I may No errors do.“ - So how are you supposed to get better?

„First work, then pleasure.“ - Couldn't spending time with the family replenish your mental energy reserves?

„Success brings with it great sacrifices.“ - Does it have to be that way?

What could help instead?

„Mistakes don't define me. They help me to improve.“

„I put myself first. Then success will come with it.“

„I achieve my goal by doing what I love.“

Sometimes it's the nuances that Difference make. But there can also be hidden catches. For the most part, we are simply not aware of our inner convictions. aware. With the coach, we can look at a deeper level of ourselves. This gives us a view of our beliefs. We can suddenly see through the blockages, as if with infrared glasses.

When should we listen up?

There are certain aspects of our language that we should pay close attention to. They usually point to entrenched beliefs. These include generalizations. „Money makes you stingy“ - but is that always the case? If possible, you should always question this immediately. Figures of speech are also part of this. The very word „man“ is intended to lump everyone together. But it's not that simple. All sentences with modal verbs should be viewed critically. Do you really „have to“? „Can't“ you do that?

Where do these beliefs come from?

They are usually deeply rooted in us. We have absorbed them from our parents or learned them through our childhood environment. They are inner certainties that the majority of us do not question ourselves. So how can anything change? They make us think in pigeonholes. By interpreting our situation in this way, these beliefs are reinforced more and more. As children, we drew conclusions from what happened to us. If we were punished for a mistake, we developed the idea that we shouldn't make mistakes. This is how perfectionism was born.

What can we do about it?

In coaching, we identify such beliefs. We take a close look at how you are still holding yourself back. This is important because otherwise we will never reach our goal. Because if we don't believe it in our subconscious, we can't create it on the outside either. So the coach works with us to uncover blind spots. What influences us? Where are we not getting anywhere?

The next step? We pull the lever. We convince ourselves through experience. We enlighten ourselves. This can be very difficult, which is why a professional coach is a great help. We accept our former beliefs and replace them. You can memorize: Identify, Accept, Exchange.

So let's pull the lever. You thought mistakes were a bad thing? Take a separate project and consciously make room for mistakes. Then you can see how bad it really is. Now it's time to practise and confirm this belief again and again. Over time, it will become part of you.

This process is guided by the coach. Beliefs are a lifelong issue. This is another reason why the coach enables us to resolve them ourselves. Personal Development is the keyword here for your future. This will help you to constantly develop yourself and your faith. So that you are not held back by this mental block again. Or at least know what to do if it does.

What can you keep from it?

„Eat up nicely so that we have nice weather tomorrow“ - The next time you hear something like this, think about how it affects your life. You don't have to believe in yourself to act. But you do need to act to change your belief and take another step into the future. This entry has only touched on the subject.

Our thoughts and actions are influenced by beliefs. So it only makes sense to continue to deal with them. This is exactly what you do in a coaching session. You get to know your own beliefs better. You will be given the techniques and methods to adapt them. Beliefs are not positive or negative. But they can help you or get in your way. You decide.