{"id":28857,"date":"2025-06-17T12:11:53","date_gmt":"2025-06-17T10:11:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/?p=28857"},"modified":"2026-10-21T08:09:25","modified_gmt":"2026-10-21T06:09:25","slug":"out-of-the-victim-role","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/raus-aus-der-opferrolle\/","title":{"rendered":"Out of the victim role: From powerlessness to mental sovereignty (A guide for doers)."},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"gb-container gb-container-606defe6\">\n\n<figure class=\"gb-block-image gb-block-image-5386a7db\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1120\" height=\"630\" class=\"gb-image gb-image-5386a7db\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Raus-aus-der-Opferrolle-Coaching.jpg\" alt=\"A coach extends his hand to a client on a mountaintop, backlit by the sun.\" title=\"Get-out-of-the-victim-role coaching\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Raus-aus-der-Opferrolle-Coaching.jpg 1120w, https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Raus-aus-der-Opferrolle-Coaching-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Raus-aus-der-Opferrolle-Coaching-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Raus-aus-der-Opferrolle-Coaching-18x10.jpg 18w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1120px) 100vw, 1120px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The victim role is the most expensive state in business and in life. Those who remain in the victim position (\u201aIt's the circumstances\u2018, \u201aThe market is difficult\u2018, \u201aMy boss doesn't understand me\u2018) voluntarily give up their power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This article is not a pampering session. It is a guide to reclaiming your ability to act (self-efficacy). Whether you are a manager or a private individual, you will learn how to turn from a passenger back into a pilot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Freeing yourself from the victim role: what exactly is this victim mentality?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What is the victim role?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The <strong>Victim role<\/strong> describes a <em>inner attitude<\/em>, in which people <em>powerless, helpless or unfair <\/em>feel treated badly. They often assume that external circumstances, other people or fate alone are responsible for this. <em>responsible for their suffering<\/em> and that they themselves have little influence on this. <br><br>This attitude often leads to those affected in <em>negative thought patterns<\/em> see themselves as \u201evictims\u201c and thereby lose their <em>Restrict the ability to act.<\/em> All in all, however, it is still a role. <br><br>Like a practiced actor, we can also use these with the <em>correct exercises and interventions<\/em> leave it again and take on a different one. All the roles we take on in life are the <em>Result of our own decisions<\/em>. This contribution is intended to recognize this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201eMan is nothing other than what he makes of himself.\u201c<\/strong><br>Jean-Paul Sartre<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"gb-headline gb-headline-bb9a15ed gb-headline-text\">The victim trap in management (\u201etoxic leadership\u201c)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Leaders in particular often fall into a subtle form of victimhood: the &quot;martyr syndrome.&quot; How to break this pattern and regain control of your role is a key topic in... <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/leadership-coaching-frankfurt-2\/\">Executive coaching in Frankfurt<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>\u201eNobody in my team works as hard as I do.\u201c<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201eI have to do everything myself because the others can't.\u201c<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That sounds like responsibility, but it's a victim attitude. You make yourself a victim of your own team. Real leaders don't complain about the team they lead - they develop it or replace it. <strong>Radical Ownership<\/strong> means: If the result is not right, I look in the mirror first, not out of the window.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>For managers &amp; entrepreneurs:<\/strong> Do you notice that you or your leadership team are stuck in a \u201cculture of complaining\u201d? We transform this attitude into an \u201cownership culture\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-layout-flex wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\" style=\"margin-top:1em;margin-bottom:1.5em\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link has-text-color has-background wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/initial-consultation\/\" style=\"color:#ffffff;background-color:#cc3333\">Book a strategy call<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"437\" height=\"307\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/verzweifelter-mann-treppe.jpg\" alt=\"A desperate man sits on a staircase \u2013 a symbol of the feeling of powerlessness in the victim role.\" class=\"wp-image-37440\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/verzweifelter-mann-treppe.jpg 437w, https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/verzweifelter-mann-treppe-300x211.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/verzweifelter-mann-treppe-18x12.jpg 18w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 437px) 100vw, 437px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Powerlessness feels real \u2013 but it is a pattern, not fate.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Important patterns of the victim role<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Assigning blame:<\/strong> Instead of taking responsibility for their own lives, people usually blame others - colleagues, partners or the environment.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Helplessness and passivity:<\/strong> The feeling that they can't change anything means that those affected often wait and see or withdraw instead of taking action. At some point, they themselves ensure that their greatest fears become reality. Simply because they think about it all day long. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Negative self-perception:<\/strong> Those in the role of victim often see themselves as weak, powerless or unworthy. As a result, we also act weak, powerless and unworthy.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Dependence on the approval of others:<\/strong> Your own well-being depends heavily on how others react or act.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Recurring conflicts:<\/strong> People often find themselves in recurring conflict situations from which they see no way out. It's as if they keep going round in circles instead of making progress. Some also describe it as a \u201ehamster wheel\u201c.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201eA person's life is what their thoughts make of it.\u201c<\/strong><br>Marcus Aurelius<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why is it so difficult to leave the role of victim?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The victim role gives a <strong>supposed<\/strong> Security: it explains the suffering, creates a clear<em> Cause<a href=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/coaching-2023\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Effect-<\/a>Explanation<\/em> and protects against responsibility. Change means <em>Uncertainty<\/em> and personal commitment - that requires courage and self-reflection. <br><br>This is why many people feel trapped in this attitude for a long time. From a purely evolutionary point of view, humans<em> Pain out of the way<\/em>. A person would rather get used to bullying than leave the role of victim and take steps towards a better future. After all, it might not work (insecurity).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reflection questions for you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>In which situations do you feel powerless or unfairly treated?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What patterns do you recognize in your thoughts and actions in this regard?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What difficult topics have you been letting slide for a while?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Where can you now 1 % take responsibility for your situation?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>How does it feel to leave the role of victim and take action?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Do you feel stuck?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Leaving the role of victim alone is often harder than expected. Especially when toxic structures at work or underlying patterns are the cause. A neutral view from the outside often helps to regain the ability to act.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Speak confidentially with our experts on precisely this topic:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Natalie Wintermantel (qualified psychologist):<\/strong> Works with you to remove inner blockages and psychological hurdles.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Tim S. Tabrizi (Leadership &amp; Culture):<\/strong> Your strategist if you suffer from a toxic corporate culture.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Lilly Fritz (retired judge &amp; mediator):<\/strong> Helps you to resolve conflicts confidently and regain authority.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6 tips for leaving the role of victim<\/h2>\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"437\" height=\"307\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/mann-imaginaere-muskeln-staerke.jpg\" alt=\"A man displays imaginary muscles as a symbol of regained inner strength.\" class=\"wp-image-37442\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/mann-imaginaere-muskeln-staerke.jpg 437w, https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/mann-imaginaere-muskeln-staerke-300x211.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/mann-imaginaere-muskeln-staerke-18x12.jpg 18w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 437px) 100vw, 437px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Self-efficacy can be trained \u2013 step by step.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>Taking inner responsibility<\/em><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Recognize that you yourself are in control of your life. Instead of blaming others, ask yourself: What can I do now to improve my situation? Always remember: \u201eI am at least one percent responsible for my own situation. This automatically means that I can influence this 1 % and change it in the long term.\u201c Whether it's a conflict or the financial situation that has trapped you over the years. It's not your fault, but you should take responsibility!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>Self-reflection and awareness<\/em><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Be aware of your thoughts and feelings. What beliefs keep you in the role of victim? Write them down and question them critically. This takes practice. But it will give you strength.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>Setting boundaries and recognizing toxic relationships<\/em><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Protect yourself from people who rob you of energy or keep you down. Learn to say \u201eno\u201c and set healthy boundaries. This is a topic in itself and a daily task in order to achieve a happy and fulfilled life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>Develop positive beliefs<\/em><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Replace negative thoughts with empowering beliefs such as \u201eI can overcome challenges\u201c or \u201eI deserve respect and happiness\u201c. You can collect these \u201emantras\u201c and recite them in the morning. Or you can write them on the bathroom mirror. What may sound unfamiliar or cheesy to working people is already a reality in competitive sport. Simply see yourself today as a competitive athlete:in your life. You are worth making these small efforts every day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>Becoming active instead of suffering passively<\/em><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Small steps lead to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/with-passion-to-success-in-the-job\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Success<\/a>Set yourself concrete goals and take action, even if they are small changes. It is a continuous process. If you keep at it, success will come faster and faster. The <a href=\"\/en\/exponential-business-models\/\">exponential growth<\/a> is exponential.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>Seeking support<\/em><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Get help when you need it \u2013 whether from friends, coaching, or professional counseling. Together, the path out of the victim role is often easier. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/gmbh-managing-director-frankfurt\/\">confidential sparring partner at the executive level<\/a> It can help you recognize your own patterns and, above all, question them through practice. Once you&#039;ve experienced it, you&#039;ll realize how liberating it is: you move from the victim role to the hero role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">People in the victim role: signs that others are in the victim role<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Constant whining and complaining:<\/strong> They mainly focus on problems and difficulties without looking for solutions.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Assigning blame:<\/strong> They blame others or external circumstances for their situation.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Feeling of helplessness:<\/strong> They feel they have little influence on their lives and feel powerless.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Negative basic attitude:<\/strong> They are pessimistic and often expect things not to turn out well.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Avoidance behavior:<\/strong> Difficulties are sat out or ignored instead of actively tackled.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Recurring conflicts:<\/strong> They often find themselves in similar stressful situations or relationships.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Dependence on the confirmation of others:<\/strong> They quickly feel hurt if they do not receive the attention or recognition they want.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">From the outside, you may be able to recognize these aspects in people around you. Be <em>careful<\/em> around these people. If they are close to you, then <em>Loyalty and support<\/em> asked. If you only know each other briefly <em>Clear demarcation<\/em> the next step. Of course, with people it is not always <em>Black on white<\/em>. Sometimes you have a bad day. Then it's up to you to <em>observe. <\/em><br><br>The following strategy has proven itself in coaching and can be applied to interactions with people:<br><br><strong>1. observe<\/strong> (when you become aware of it)<br><strong>2. change<\/strong> (if you can do anything about it)<br><strong>3. customize<\/strong> (if change does not work\/is not possible)<br><strong>4. Let go of the person<\/strong> (if nothing else helps)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Out of the victim role: how to take inner responsibility and leave the victim role behind<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The key to leaving the role of victim lies in <strong>inner responsibility<\/strong> for your own life. This means<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Becoming aware:<\/strong> Recognize your own thoughts, feelings and behaviors that keep you in the victim role.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Acceptance:<\/strong> Accept that not everything is in your control, but that you can always decide how to react.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Active action:<\/strong> Instead of waiting for external circumstances, take action yourself and look for solutions.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Self-empowerment:<\/strong> Develop the conviction that you can shape your life and are not a victim of circumstances.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Change of perspective:<\/strong> See challenges as opportunities for growth and development.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Blaming, bullying or feeling like a victim: what patterns keep you trapped in the victim role<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Assignment of blame:<\/strong> The tendency to blame others for our own suffering prevents us from taking action ourselves.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Self-pity:<\/strong> Feeling like a helpless victim leads to passivity and lethargy.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Overidentification with the role:<\/strong> The role of victim becomes an identity that provides security and attention.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Avoidance behavior:<\/strong> Problems are not tackled directly, but are suppressed or hidden.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Dependence on toxic relationships:<\/strong> Contact with people who harm you is maintained despite the negative influence.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Loss of self-efficacy:<\/strong> The feeling of not being able to achieve anything paralyzes and prevents change.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Here we have to give you a pill that <em>difficult to swallow<\/em> is. Ready? <strong>Bullying only occurs when a person allows themselves to be bullied.<\/strong> In other words: <strong>The person being bullied (often) contributes to the situation themselves through their own insecurities and the role of victim.<\/strong> Accepting this is difficult at first and goes against all our instincts. But we can work with it. We now promote <em>internal security<\/em>, practicing the <em>Quick-wittedness<\/em> and make the person the <em>Hero of your own story<\/em>. Then the question becomes <em>\u201ewhy always me?\u201c<\/em> the statement <em>\u201enot with me!\u201c<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to escape toxic relationships<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Toxic relationships can be a central reason for remaining in the role of victim. The following steps can help you break free from this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Recognize:<\/strong> Learn, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/signs-of-a-toxic-corporate-culture\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Toxic behaviors<\/a> such as manipulation, control, criticism or emotional blackmail.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Set boundaries:<\/strong> Make it clear what you accept and what you don't. Don't let yourself be run over or belittled.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Create distance:<\/strong> Reduce contact or break off the relationship if necessary.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Self-care:<\/strong> Nurture your own needs and strengthen your self-esteem.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Looking for support:<\/strong> Talk to friends, family or a coach\/therapist to get support and advice.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Dare to make a new start:<\/strong> Take the opportunity to refocus and build healthier relationships.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A self-determined life: what needs to change?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A self-determined life means taking responsibility for your own happiness and your own decisions. The following changes are important for this:<br><br><strong>Strengthen self-confidence:<\/strong> Learn to trust yourself and clearly define your own values.<br><br><strong>Take responsibility:<\/strong> Accept that you are responsible for your life and your feelings.<br><br><strong>Active design:<\/strong> Plan and implement your goals instead of passively waiting.<br><br><strong>Maintain healthy relationships:<\/strong> Surround yourself with people who support and respect you.<br><br><strong>Respect boundaries:<\/strong> Protect your time, energy and values by saying \u201eno\u201c from time to time.<br><br><strong>Develop a positive mindset:<\/strong> Focus on solutions and opportunities instead of problems and obstacles.<br><br><strong>Continuous further development:<\/strong> Remain open to learning and growth in order to constantly develop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is exactly what <strong>Executive Coaching<\/strong> and professional personal development.<br><br>We support you and use our experience to shorten the process. So that you no longer allow yourself to be determined by uncertainty, but guide and shape your life yourself!<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Conclusion: From victim to creator<\/strong> The way out of the victim role is not therapy, but a decision. The decision to choose results over excuses. Those who flip this switch go from being \u201emanagers of circumstances\u201c to \u201earchitects of the future\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Read also:<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/coaching-basics\/\">Coaching basics<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/executive-coaching-frankfurt\/\">Executive Coaching Frankfurt<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/coaching-costs\/\">Coaching costs &amp; fee<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n<div id=\"rank-math-faq\" class=\"rank-math-block\">\n<div class=\"rank-math-list\">\n<div id=\"faq-question-689c3906a8a9c\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">How do I get out of a victim role?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>By taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings and actions, consciously recognizing patterns and actively starting to shape your life.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-689c3906a8a9d\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">How does someone behave in the role of victim?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Blame, passivity, self-pity, pessimism and the feeling of being at the mercy of others or circumstances are typical.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-689c3906a8a9f\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">When are you in a victim role?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>If you permanently believe that you have no control over your own life, blame others and do not actively seek solutions.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-689c3906a8aa0\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">Why do you put yourself in the role of victim?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Often out of unconscious patterns, past experiences or to gain attention, pity or control - as an unconscious protective strategy.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-689c3906a8aa1\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">How do you overcome a victim complex?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Through self-reflection, emotional work, recognizing one's own parts, strengthening self-esteem and targeted changes to thought and action patterns.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-689c3906a8aa2\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">What do you call people who always see themselves as victims?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Colloquially, we speak of \u201epermanent victims\u201c or people with a \u201evictim complex\u201c. No specific technical term is used.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-689c3906a8aa3\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">Which personality type plays the victim?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Often people with low self-esteem, high emotional dependency or a tendency towards self-insecurity - regardless of the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ihrcoachinginstitut.de\/en\/16-personality-test\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Personality test.<\/a><\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-689c3906a8aa4\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">What is the opposite of victimhood?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>The creator role: A person takes responsibility, acts in a self-determined manner, thinks in a solution-oriented way and sees themselves as the creator of their life.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-689c3906a8aa6\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">What is the root cause of the victim mentality?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Deeply rooted beliefs such as \u201eI am not good enough\u201c or \u201eI have no power\u201c - often shaped by upbringing, trauma or unresolved conflicts.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">About the author<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph translation-block\">Tim S. Tabrizi is an executive coach and the owner and managing director of Ihr Coaching Institut (Frankfurt). 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